The world is changing (Part II)

Yups, seems like i'm hearing more and more of how the world is changing...

Anyway, this stemmed from a conversation i had with an associate counsellor when he commented about the family photo on my friend's PC. Then we started to talk about how many people might put their other half's photo as wallpaper until at least, when their first child is born... That's when the child takes over the prime position. The AC pointed out that his ex-colleague used to put her boyfriend and later, husband's photo as the wallpaper of her work PC. However, when her child was born, photos of the child took over! So he jokingly asked her, "Your husband leh? Disappear liao ah?"

I commented that it's not right coz it means that the child has taken over the no. 1 spot in each spouse's heart. This is dangerous as they might slowly relate to each other more and more as the father/mother of their child, and not as a married couple. I've personally seen too many such couples and it kind of scares me... So my advice to those who are having children would be to take some time out for yourselves! Have a romantic date regularly, make time for each other!

As we talked more, the AC shared about a time when he asked one of his female clients if she was worried that her husband might stray. Her answer was, "I think HE has more cause to worry about me!" The AC was quite puzzled and we started to try to think of some theories about why the young women nowadays have such a different mindset as compared to those from the older generation?

Some theories we came up with were:
1) The older generation were more likely to frown upon divorce and had the concept that marriage was for keeps
2) The women nowadays are more independent financially
3) They don't only think for their children, they think of their own wellbeing as well

The AC also shared about another case whereby a woman had known that her husband was cheating on her while having her first child, but she stayed in the marriage because she believed that her child needed to have a father. He still went on womanizing and she's suffering now as she had a few more children after the first... Such cases really break your heart and as someone watching from the outside, it is easy to say: "Stupid woman... Why didn't she just leave him in the beginning?!" But i guess things are not as simple as it seems... Sigh...

Anyway, was reading this mag a few weeks ago and one article briefly talked about what views women in their 40s had about dating. Those single and divorced talked about how some of the men that they dated once backed away really quickly when the women initiated a second date. However, these women were not looking at marriage as what the men had assumed but more of companionship... After all, those who were married before probably would not want to jump into marriage so quickly either!

So, things are changing and as I worry about it, i also remember that God is still the same yesterday, today and forever more. Thus, really have to trust Him for my relationship with M... And i am also learning that i have to work at making my relationship work, not just waiting for things to happen... Really glad that M took the time to do things with me... It was just the thing to give me enough energy to carry on with the relationship!

So yeah... must really pray... For God to be the head of our relationship!